What Guys Really Want for Valentine’s Day

know, I know: Valentine’s Day is all about women, and deservedly so. Women absolutely have earned the flowers, the cards, the love notes, the sensual kisses, and everything else they have coming on that day, aside from the typical three-hour restaurant wait.

The focus should be on women (not maitre d’s). But as long as guys are chauffering the love limo on that night of nights, maybe we could take a look at what they might like, as a kind of side trip on the way to destination You? Consider this his wish list for the day. And relax. No chocolate boxes, fading roses, or $7 Hallmark cards will be necessary! But he’d love it if you’d offer up…
                 
Romance Lite. He knows he better come up with innovative ways to show his affection. Some guys will go with a flowery card, some will pile on the rose petals, and some will even pull out their guitars and write a sappy song (thanks for making the rest of us look bad, guys).

He’s not asking you to do any of that for him, but if he arrives at the office on Thursday to find an e-mail waiting with five examples of why you dig him, or if he receives an instant-message that launches a day-long e-flirtation, or if you interrupt his morning with a caress across the phone lines, then you’ve begun foreplay before you even get together, and your night will be a whole lot hotter because of it.

A Thank You-In Early March. If your man goes full tilt on Valentine’s Day-dinner, with candles, a table-side violinist, and a special dessert from the kitchen, you won’t have much of an opportunity to launch your own romantic agenda. He’s already planned the big show.

But you are free to demonstrate your appreciation in a number of ways, and one of the best is by planning a darn good time for the two of you a few weeks later. A woman who takes the lead (especially in response to the man doing so) is one of every guy’s greatest turn-ons.

A Surprise. If you’re planning to buy each other presents, consider buying him some underwear. But here’s the twist: Buy lingerie for you to wear, but make it a dainty little nothing you know he’ll love to see you barely wearing.

Wrap it up and present it to him as his gift. When he opens it, tell him you’re going to wear it out that night. That way, the lingerie becomes the wrapping, and you’re the sexy present he’ll get to open up later. That gesture, and the night of romantic expectation it sets up, will supercharge your evening together.  

A Steak. If you want your favorite California roll or chicken marsala, go ahead and choose your favorite place. (Agree to eat really early or really late, or you’ll still probably be waiting for your entrees on Feb 15!) But your man would also appreciate it if he could order a 10-ounce steak, and if you would take a few bites.

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